Core Belief

Perception of Self

Perception of other men

Perception of Women

1.  Self-Image

“I am unlovable, bad and unworthy.” “Shame based.”

I am not attractive, physically or personally.  A woman would not choose me.

Other men ore more attractive, more successful, and more likely to be chosen by women.

Women choose men who are not like me.  They prefer stronger, smarter, and more successful men.

2.  Relationships

“Now one would love me as I am.”

“I am different.”

I will have to convince a woman to be with me.

Men have to initiate relationships.  Other men are more effective than I.

Women can wait, pick and choose to accept relationship offers.

3.  Needs:

“If I depend on anyone else to me my needs, I won’t get them met.” 

“I must take care of myself.”

My needs can only be met by luck, or chance, careful strategizing, or the accumulation of money or power.

Men have external power in jobs and money but will give in on issues to keep women happy.

Women make decisions at home and in other areas.  They are impressed by money, possession, and security.

4.  Sexuality:

“Sex is my most important need.”

I need sex all the time, cannot get enough, and must not pass up any opportunities.  I am the only one who needs sex this much.

Men are more sexual than women and more free to enjoy it.  They will take sex whenever they can get it and cannot be trusted around women.

Women are less sexual that men and have to be coaxed into being sexual.  Consequently they are responsible for moral behaviors and can use sex as a reward and punishment.