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“Reality” Thoughts Beliefs Emotion Conscience Behavior Will |
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“Reality” Thoughts Beliefs Emotion Conscience Behavior Will |
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In a healthy relationship each person experience
their own thought, beliefs, emotion, conscience, behavior and will. The boundaries are like cell membranes that
lets the good things in and keeps unwanted things out. It has the choice to accept or not accept
is being transferred. There is a
concept that it is another person we are interacting, rather than an extension
of oneself. |
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An Enmeshed Relationship Boundaries are not there. People are seen as extensions of each
other. “Your feelings are my feelings” and “your thoughts are my
thoughts.” It is as if they share one
nervous system between each other. If
I say something that hurts you, it hurts me, because “You” are “me.” Controlling, abusive and addictive
relationship typically do not have boundaries. The “controller” sees others as a
reflection of what they want. So they
tell people what to do and manipulate with guilt. |
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A Healthy Relationship where boundaries exist and are respected |
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Erik Bohlin, M.A. New
Hope Counseling 430
91st AVE NE, STE 8 Everett,
WA 98205 425-334-8916 |
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200% emotion |
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0% emotion |
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A Dysfunctional Relationship with no boundaries and enmeshment |
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